Conscious Relationship

"Between our hearts there's a shutter we can open,
but what is there to open when no walls remain?"
- Rumi





When You Can Endure

When
The words stop
And you can endure the silence

That reveals your heart's
Pain

Of emptiness
Of that great wrenching-sweet longing,

That is the time to try and listen
To what the Beloved's
Eyes

Most want

To

Say.

-Hafiz




The minute I heard my first
love story
I started looking for you,
not knowing
how blind that was.
Lovers don't finally meet somewhere.
They're in each other all along.
- Rumi

Conscious Relationship:
A Journey for Male Couples

Join Soul Quests in learning practical steps for taking your relationship to a higher level of consciousness and loving.

Most relationships form from a place of grasping, with one or the other partner (usually both!) projecting their needs (fantasies, expectations, etc) onto their mate. Relationships on this level tend to bog down and burn out in old patterns of dependence, transference, projection, disappointment and resentment.

On a more conscious level, people come together as mates to meet basic needs such as comfort, intimacy, shelter, etc. while pursuing their personal growth and spiritual paths. Moving to a higher level from this, both partners realize that the relationship, itself, has become a spiritual path... and that there is a conscious entity of relationship created by their joining together. At the highest level of conscious relationship - a very rare place - each partner recognizes and celebrates that his human beloved is a unique, mysterious embodiment of the Sacred Other.

The hallmark of a conscious relationship is that is about something much larger than happiness; it is about transformation... together. Transformation comes through enlargement, a process that is rarely painless as one bumps into the prickly and painful places of limiting beliefs and old patterns.

A conscious relationship offers a place of growth for both partners; it is expansive and dynamic, not limiting or stagnant. It supports the highest unfolding of each mate's life purpose, and celebrates the unique journey together, even for all of its challenges.

Step beyond the romantic notion of "soulmate" as one with whom we live happily ever after, or one who "completes us". Instead, consider the idea that a true soulmate is one who guides us to the most challenging and painful places in ourselves, that we might grow through and finally transcend them... becoming a larger, more fully whole, heart-centered and integrated person. In this process, he loves his mate with a patient, non-judgmental heart, supports while the other struggles, and honors that in sacred reciprocity and mutual growth, his own shadow will certainly be engaged in turn.

This workshop is open to male couples ONLY (duration of relationship not important), and is facilitated by a significantly long term couple. In addition to group discussion and sharing, you will engage with your partner in duo exercises involving trust, vulnerability and communication, and be given valuable tools for transforming the intimate relationship into a conscious, loving journey.



2010 Schedule

TBD, Southwest England (venue TBD; more details coming soon!)

For booking or more information, please use the Contact page.